It’s a quote that perked my mind and made me wonder if Lady GaGa is adopting a different approach,whether her approach is more related to her image. Either way, it’s different to the sexualised focus attached to every female pop star.
“I don’t have sex,” says Gaga, 24. “I’m single right now and I’ve chosen to be single because I don’t have the time to get to know anybody. So it’s okay not to have sex, it’s okay to get to know people. I’m celibate, celibacy’s fine.” [source]
Will her quote be used by the abstinence movement? I hope not. There is a difference between not having the time to ‘know’ someone and not being a slave to sexual fads, and being abstinence. The latter tends to be attached to religious, namely Christian, values.
There is the other side or the darker side of fame here that isn’t stated, but it surely affects celebrities whose private lives are often played out in public via the media. It would be, and often is, difficult for them to go about their sexual lives as their non celebrity fellows. Imagine: you’re famous and you can’t really step out to buy condoms without someone noticing and calling up some gossip rag. Then there are relationships and the ‘getting to know’ stage that precedes every relationship.
Some days, I imagine celebrities to be some of the loneliest people in the world. The moment they break through and become attached to the fame train, and everything that comes along with it, there are the cons of gossip magazines and paid sources (to the point where a celebrity needs to retain a lawyer to draft confidentiality agreements). Additional commitments are attached, such that new celebrities lose contact with their friends; there is only so much long distance communication can do. If you’re in LA, on a film set, you can’t dash back to London for a night out at the pub with your friends. You miss birthdays and, on that level, it’s a huge sacrifice. Of course, many will counter argue and say that the financial rewards outweigh the negatives, but do they?
Back to Lady GaGa’s quote, specifically the part about not having time to get to know anyone. Is that the central issue or is risk also attached to getting to know anyone?
I’d hate playing the ongoing game of risk, never knowing if someone I liked or dated, would tell all – even secretly- to some paying publication.If you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed.